Lie #3: The single life is BORING.
Currently, I’m in my early 30s, and yes, I am single. I have been for the last nine years, but does that mean something is wrong with me….No. Does it mean that I cannot have a fulfilling life? No. Does it mean that I don’t really have a desire to get married because I was single for that long? No. Now, I can admit that I did make some mistakes in the last few years by getting involved with someone intimately, which ended up draining me. The lessons I learned from that are to stick to my own values regardless of the pressure that come my way and to confront my own issues of loneliness and self-acceptance. I honestly do not think that being single was meant to be a “lifeless journey”, but more like an activation of inner greatness. What do I mean by that?
Spending time with YOU allows YOU to become connected to YOU. You are learning to grow, heal, explore, connect with other people, discover, and ultimately finding and walking in your purpose. Of course, I am not trying to feed y’all a lot of fluff, but want to break down this wall of depression concerning singleness. Yes, I desire to get married one day and have more children, but I’m fine with just waking up in MY OWN BED and DOING MY OWN THING. That’s not to say that I do not wonder about “when I’m going to meet someone??” and do desire that close companionship from time to time. By being a single mother and a woman in her 30s, it adds more pressure and burden from the outside to find a mate, but I do not want to waste my singleness drowning in feelings of loneliness.
Sometimes, people fail to realize that singleness is a season that EVERYONE has to pass through. We also have to know this truth that God does not give everyone that desire for marriage, and that’s completely fine. In order to be properly fitted for marriage, you have to be living in a way that it will attract the right mate to you. You keep acting desperate or lonely, then you will soon attract someone that is going to take advantage of that brokenness. Marriage is not a completion of you, but an addition to you. So to my single men and women, get out there and LIVE LIFE. Do not let allow anyone to make you feel bad for being single. It’s not a curse. It’s more like a preparation stage, and it’s up to YOU to make the most out of it.
The single life really is the GOOD LIFE.
As always feel free to share your thoughts and Good day, awesome peeps!
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