On last week, I was having a conversation with someone about the difficulty of forgetting the past. I shared a transparent moment with her about an issue I was wrestling with and confessed that I prayed to God to “delete the memory of the pain”. Now, it may sound a little crazy to ask that, but how many of us can honestly say that “We love to remember bad times?” No one likes to hold on to bad memories, but we have to realize that we can’t get rid of certain things. This is not to say that we have to continue to waddle in “self-pity” over past offenses, but we have to learn how to deal with things when they appear. The advice this wonderful woman gave me was to continue to do the things necessary to heal from the pain, so when the memory pops back up, it will not hurt as bad or even bother me.
I wonder if forgiving is the issue or forgetting? I know I said that we can’t forget certain things BUT what does forgetting truly mean? I had to look up the definition to make sense of what it means to truly forgive. If I can sum up what I found, then this would be the definition…to stop. To forget something is to no longer bring it up. We all have someone that have done wrong to us, AND we have did wrong to others in some way, so forgiveness is necessary for EVERYONE. When I forgive someone, I stop holding them to the offense AND I stop bringing that offense to the forefront of my thoughts. I do have the right to voice my pain, and get the help needed to deal with it, BUT I do not have to right to hold on to poison. I know I had to be forgiven for some crazy stuff that I did, said, and thought, so why would I stay on my high horse and deemed someone else unworthy of forgiveness? Something to ponder.
Happy Tuesday! This week, I will be chatting about forgiveness. Of course, it may seem like an “old or worn out” topic, but to be honest, this is an essential habit that we need in our lives. Sometimes it’s hard to enjoy what you have now if you are still focusing on past offenses or present ones. Forgiveness is like a release of the old so the new can come in. I’m excited to share some heartfelt convos with you this week, and as always, feel free to share your thoughts! (It’s always welcomed!)
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