On last month, I celebrated the high school graduation of one of my younger sisters, (..she was valedictorian!). As I think about her going off to college next month, I start to reflect on what lessons I learned throughout my college years, and my 20’s…(and a little bit of my 30s). I was once that rebellious girl that thought she knew everything until life taught me that I knew nothing. My prayer for my younger sisters, and for any young lady out there is to be open to wisdom. Wisdom is truth. Oftentimes we get so excited about doing “this and that” in life that we become blinded to the truth of things. We can become blinded to an abusive relationship for the sake of being in a relationship. We can become blinded to friends that are only using you for the sake of having company. We can become blinded to the lies about ourselves that are disguised as truth for the sake of making everyone around us comfortable. As women, we tend to fall into this trap of people-pleasing in order to avoid the truth. Because accepting the truth means “to end the foolishness”.
I had to learn that I must accept what happened and what came to be from different moments in my life so I can move on. I like to say we love to entertain the foolishness for the sake of “false happiness”. You are happy that you have someone texting you every day, even though that man is married and using you for sex. You are happy to have a boyfriend, even though that guy is controlling and verbally abusive. You are happy to be average, even though you are unfulfilled because stepping out on faith to pursue your business, degree, or even a better career will defy the low expectations that people have set on you. I can go on and on. There are even women who pretend to be this “bad chick” so they will be accepted by their peers although they are not into that lifestyle. I don’t want to spend my days being fake. Living in truth is freedom.
Yes, sometimes it is very tempting to be like “what is” for acceptance, but I faced the hurt and the consequences that come from being someone that you are not. So, the lesson for my ladies on today….is to be a woman of wisdom. Stand in truth. I do not like to entertain gossip. I am not into guys that do not respect my relationship with God or my decision now to remain abstinent until marriage. (I am not ashamed to say that, because l learned from my past.) I am a woman that is willing to be open about my scars so I can help others, because the truth is that I was made for more. Accept the truth. #lessonlearned
As always, feel free to share your thoughts? What lessons did you learn that needs to be pass down to the next woman? We all can learn from each other.
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